Fridays article Keeping The Romance In The Relationshipis relevant in todays high tech environment. Its a lot more that can distract us from eachother then before. I think one of the most important things to do is giving attention to eachother both mentally and physically. We all need confirmation from others and especially if we are in a romance or in a relationship. This comes naturally most of the time due to the fact that we are attracted to our partner. I do think its a good behaviour to turn of the phone once in a while at special romantic occasions to give ourselves and our lover full attention.
With all of the hustle and bustle of the world today, even couples that truly love each other have some trouble finding time to keep the romance in their relationship. Career couples have to work even harder, it seems, to make time for each other. That’s why so many marriages and other romantic relationships tend to fail, even those that began so promising. Its not easy to be husband and wife these times.
If you’re in one of these hugely busy relationships, you may worry from time to time that you and your partner don’t have enough quality time together. Even if that’s true, there are ways that you can inject some of that lost romance back into your relationship. Believe it or not, none of them are costly or difficult. They’re simple and cheap, with some not costing anything at all.
Leaving little love notes for your significant other is something that couples have practiced for centuries. This doesn’t mean that you dash off an email or send off a one of those sexy, naughty ecards. It means that you take the time to write something loving, sweet, or erotic to your love on some pretty paper. Then, you add a slight spritz of your perfume to the paper and leave it somewhere that he’ll find it. This can be in the medicine cabinet of the bathroom so he’ll see it when he gets ready for work in the morning. If he has to travel for business, slip it in his luggage somewhere that he’ll find it when he checks into the hotel.
If you and your partner work in close proximity to each other, you may want to plan to meet for lunch at least once a week, or whenever it’s possible. This is a great way to just enjoy each other’s company outside of the norm. It also gives you something to look forward to that’s a little different.
Something else that you can use to spice things up a little is by taking a shower together a couple of times a week. Nothing can help a couple re-connect as much as taking turns soaping each other’s bodies and washing them. Your bodies get all slippery and that tends to spark some feelings all by itself. This can also help those really busy couples work in some spontaneous sex so that they don’t have to go for weeks at a time because they’re just too busy or too tired.
If you’ve got kids, pack them off to the grandparents a couple of nights a month; more, if the grandparents are willing. Being busy as well as parents can be very challenging, but if you’re willing to let a babysitter take over periodically, you can still be just a couple sometimes. If you happen to feel guilty about not missing your kids for a few hours a week, move past that. Keep in mind that when you’re happy, then you’ll be a much better parent. That trapped feeling doesn’t do anyone any good. So let yourself also be a person. You’ll be happier for it.