Intimacy Challenge – Are You Too Tired to Tango?

I often wonder how it has become this way in our society as described in todays article Intimacy Challenge – Are You Too Tired to Tango?. It seems like the more technology we are surrounded with that should save time for us the less time we have?! Media is also taking a lot of our attention from our “real” life nearby. It seems like the rat race is the only way to go and the right way to live but i think many people are looking for something else in life then a fancy car and a lot of money. Money that cant buy love, hapiness and friends. Todays introduction may seems like  philosophy but i do think we are many who think of such issues; how to have more time for our family and beloved ones.

With Love

It’s become such a huge problem across the nation that it’s been addressed on the Dr. Oz show and in countless marriage counseling sessions in between. American couples are exhausted to the point they don’t even have time to enjoy intimate relations between man and wife. And it’s destroying romance in America — not to mention taking a huge toll on marriages. If your marriage is suffering from a drought of human contact, the good news is that it isn’t beyond hope. There are small moves you can start making today that will help you turn your marriage around and find the energy to put on your dancing shoes.

Create a Sleep Schedule in Your Home

Everyone needs a sleep schedule. The key is to be consistent with the sleep schedule – even on the weekend when many people attempt to make up for the sleep deprivation they’ve suffered during the week. Getting everyone — husband, wife, children, and pets on a similar schedule can eliminate the groggy run down feeling that overwhelms just before calling it a night in the evening. It can also help you keep better track of how much sleep you’re actually getting.

Reprioritize and Learn to Delegate

This is especially difficult for women who like to feel they can do it all. The truth of the matter is that it’s not all getting done. Things are falling through the cracks and you really don’t want your marriage to be that thing that is falling. Ask for help and learn to accept help as it comes. It’s not going to be perfect when someone else does it – but that’s OK. The other thing to remember is that you need to watch your priorities. If everything and everyone else is coming before your happy home life then something’s gotta go. It’s not fair to you, your husband, or your marriage to keep things going as they are.

Schedule Weekly Intimate Moments

It may feel a little strained at first – even a little awkward. But, the odds are good that won’t last long. In fact, many couples find that after a couple of weeks of “penciling it in” the spontaneity begins to retune – and the fun. More importantly, the simple process of physical intimacy returns life to your marriage.

Yes, there is a drought going on in homes across America. Your home does not have to be one of the unhappy homes it’s happening in if you follow these great tips.

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Best Ways To Get Her Back Quiz: Mending My Broken Heart

It is Okay to Mourn

Grief requires mourning.  Give yourself permission to get over the relationship.  Call in sick to work if you need to.

Write a letter to your ex spilling out all of the hurt you have.  It is okay for this letter to run pages and pages long.  But don’t send it.  Instead, when you have poured out your heart on paper, burn it.  This will help you bring closure to the relationship.

You may also want to create a “divorce ceremony” to help you bring closure to the relationship.  Just as the bride and groom take two separately lit candles and together light a unity candle to signify their new union at a wedding, you can create a divorce ceremony that signifies your new single state.  Your ex may wish to join you in this ceremony or you can do it yourself.

Congratulate Yourself on Being Human

Part of being human is experiencing the hurts of everyday life.  Life hurts – but there are great parts too.  Acknowledging that there is both pain and joy in life will help you appreciate the human experience more.

You may want to develop a helpful mantra to help you get through this stage in your life.  A mantra is a mind tool which is used like a barbell for the mind.  You repeat a short phrase frequently to help you develop that mindset.  You might say “I am a lovable person” to yourself with a great frequency – especially when you are feeling unlovable.

During this time, you should reach out to a close friend or family member for support.  Your ex was a big part of your support system prior to the break up.  Because he is no longer there, you need to strengthen the other facets of the support system you have in place.

You also need to remember what is good about you.  Make a list of the things you offer a potential partner.  If you are loving, giving, and an easy conversationalist, dwell on these things rather than the fact that your ex didn’t want you anymore.

Also, remember that it’s not always about you.  Your ex had other things going on in his life that were independent of whatever you brought to the relationship.  When he said “it’s not you, it’s me,” maybe it was.

Finally, honor how you are feeling.  Don’t dismiss your emotions quickly just because they are uncomfortable.  Part of being human is to have these hard emotions.  They help you grow.

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