Being Happy Is the Best Revenge - Happy Together that Is

Sometimes, the idea of being happy in your relationship seems elusive. Life gets in the way. You're always torn between work, family, and love. Unfortunately, love and romance often get placed on the back burner. That's not good for your relationship. 

Sometimes it takes a serious wakeup call, like a breakup, to make you realize just how little attention you've been giving to one of the most important relationships you'll ever have in your life. By that time, most people think it's too late to make a difference. However, that’s hardly the case. 

It's not too late to make things work for the two of you. In fact, the best revenge you can have on yourself (that will teach you) is to get your ex back and have a relationship that's better than it's ever been before. But, before you set out on your mission to get your ex back, keep these thing in mind.

Your Ex has Some Hurt to Deal With

Make sure you allow your ex an adequate amount of time to put the pain behind and start remembering the good times rather than dwelling on the bad before you make your play. It's hard to wait once you've made up your mind. But, waiting in this case is necessary if you want to be truly successful.

Your Ex Still Loves You

It's important for you to understand that your ex can't turn his love off and on like it's a light switch. If he loved you before, he still loves you now. That should help alleviate some of the sense of urgency driving you forward. The fact that your ex can't turn off these feelings so easily works in your favor giving you time to come up with a plan that will be effective for getting your ex back.

Absence Really Does Make Hearts Fonder

The things about most old sayings that have survived the tests of time is that they are, quite often, true. That certainly applies for this one. The longer you're away, the more time you give your ex to recover, the more good, fond memories your ex is likely to remember when thinking of you. If you make your move too soon, the negative emotions are still too raw and close to the surface. Waiting allows an appropriate amount of time to pass so that your ex can be more receptive to the idea of working things out.

If you want to be happy this time around, make your relationship a priority for your life once you do get your ex back. That will be the best revenge you can have on yourself and the way things were before. Need a little help coming up with a plan to get your ex back? I can help with that!

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Did Score Keeping Ruin Your Relationship?

No matter what you may have heard, it takes two to make or break a relationship. You aren't the sole reason your breakup happened. But, that doesn't mean there aren't things you've done along the way that contributed to the end. One of the biggest problems in relationships, and one that is more common than most people realize, is a practice called keeping score. 

You may have a fight and even make up after the fight, but in the back of your mind, you're marking off numbers on a scorecard your partner has never even seen. When need fights occur, you're adding fouls and other offenses to this scorecard and the fight grows into so much more than it started out as.

You know what I'm talking about. You're having a fight over dinner being late and suddenly the fight's about something that happened last year when he didn't defend you when his mother was overly critical.  This is bad for the relationship for many reasons. These are just a few.

Nothing is Ever Solved

Not really solved, anyway. The other person has moved on and forgotten about the old argument. Then suddenly he or she is being held responsible for something they thought had been sorted out and made up for in the past. To them it feels like a sucker punch and that's not a good feeling. 

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Fighting is a normal part of relationships. The purpose is to RESOLVE issues. When you pretend all is well for a while and then bring it up at a later date, it leaves the other person feeling doubly hurt and somewhat betrayed.

It Breeds Resentment

Unfortunately, when you're keeping score and resolving nothing, you're rehashing old arguments and emotional injuries just beneath the surface. You're walking around in a state of unresolved hurt and growing resentment all the time. It's not healthy for you and may leave your partner scratching his or her head at times trying to understand why you're so angry all the time.

Compounds the Real Problems in the Relationship

Finally, when you have this running score going on in your head of perceived slights and injuries (some things you've probably never even so much as mentioned to your partner), they're only serving to compound the real problems in the relationship. 

This means that when the time comes to begin working on what's broken, you have to sift through all the clutter to get to the heart and soul of the problem in your relationship. Too often, you expend precious time and energy trying to sort through the old issues that you never get to the real problem.

That's when breakups happen. That's when the two of you give up and then, more often than not, live with regrets over what could have been. Is it too late? I don't believe it's ever too late. But, you will ultimately have to eliminate the scorecard and leave it behind you for good if you want to have an honest shot at a second chance.

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Signs Your Husband is Cheating

No woman wants to believer her husband is cheating on her. However, most women really do know when it's happening. Whether you can admit it to yourself or not, it's almost always best to know what's going on so you can make informed decisions about what has to happen next. These are a few of the signs you should be on the lookout for that indicate your husband really may be stepping out on you.

He Becomes Mr. Critical

If your normally docile and easy-going husband has recently turned into Mr. Critical, it's often his way of dealing with the guilt or his affair and/or comparing you to the other woman. Many men look for faults in you in order to justify the affair and soothe their consciences over cheating. 

He Begins Spending More Time Away from Home

If your husband has suddenly started working extra hours, joined a gym without the sweaty results, or taken a sudden interest in a previously unmentioned hobby that keeps him away from home several nights a week, it could be a sign that he's spending that time with someone else.

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He Goes "Off the Grid" Sometimes

We live in a day and age of constant connectivity. Between mobile phones, computers, and other technological wonders, no one is ever out of touch for long. They especially aren't out of touch with any degree of regularity. If he's going off grid on a regular basis, then it's likely intentional rather than accidental and that can be a sign of real trouble for your relationship.

His Sexual Preferences Change

Sometimes this presents itself in a sexual drought at home. Other times it presents as more frequent sex than ever before. It's almost as if he's trying to make up for his indiscretion by behaving even more lovingly at home. However, it almost always results in changing preferences and evolving interests in the bedroom.

He Brings Up a Specific Other Woman in Conversation Often

If he's talking about another woman a great deal it's because she's on his mind. That, in and of itself, is cause for concern -- but not necessarily alarm. In many cases, he's thinking about an affair when he's talking about her. When he suddenly stops talking about her is when you should be alarmed.

Knowing what's going on his mind is half the battle. It is possible to stop an affair before it gets started or becomes too serious if you are aware of the signals and make a concerted effort to stop things before they really heat up.

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I Caught Him Once Could He Still Be Cheating

One of the hardest things to do when you catch your man cheating on you is to forgive and take him back, assuming that he WANTS you to take him back. Sometimes these guys are almost relieved to be caught because they want out of the relationship and figure this is a sure fire way of making that happen. However, other guys don’t really want out of the relationship. They just couldn’t avoid temptation and feel that as long as the cheating didn’t “mean anything” it should all be ok with their wives or girlfriends. 

Suppose you’ve already dealt with a cheating man once and let him back into your life. For a while everything has been going well. He comes home when he’s supposed to and he’s where he’s supposed to be at all times. It seems that he’s done everything possible to make it up to you and you’re starting to slowly trust him again. Suddenly, some little signs start popping up again. 

His cell phone rings and he either ignores it if you’re around or he takes the call in another room. He starts setting his phone to silent when he’s home and doesn’t check calls, voice mail, or texts messages in your presence. It makes you feel that he’s hiding something from you. 
Then, there’s that first night he calls and tells you he must work late. Now, he could very well be working late, but when you call him later on his work phone, he doesn’t answer even though his phone has caller ID and he can clearly see it’s you calling. Next, you try his cell phone and he doesn’t answer that, either. It’s not looking promising. 

When you question him about his actions, he’s quick to assure you that you have nothing to worry about. His behavior returns to normal and you start to calm down some. You also begin to watch him less. However, he’s begun spending a lot of time on his laptop. In fact, he seems to stay on it some nights well into the wee hours. He tells you that he’s brought work home with him and that’s what he’s doing. 
One day, you decide to check out his laptop while he’s in the shower. You find that he’s changed all of his passwords as well as erased any browser history. That’s kind of a red flag for a man that’s been caught cheating before. He may not be using his cell phone to communicate with other women because he can chat with them online while you’re sleeping. 

It’s hard to know when signs are actually signs or if they’re really what your man is telling you they are. Broken trust has to be repaired if the relationship is going to work. So if he’s repeating past actions that make him look suspicious, it’s time to address them. 

If he’s serious about rebuilding the relationship, he needs to give you all of his passwords to things, and stop hiding his calls and texts from you. By doing this, he’s showing you that he doesn’t have anything to hide and that he really wants to be back with you. On the other hand, if he wants to fight you on this, chances are that he’s back up to his old tricks and you need to make some hard decisions. 

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Dating With Children around.

How many times have you found the perfect woman or man to go out with, but you weren’t able to get a date because your babysitter couldn’t come over and watch your kids? You would never guess the amount of people that have to give up any chance of happiness because they can't find someone to watch their children so that they could go out on a date. The sad truth is that there are a lot of single parents out there that would love to find someone to share their life with, but have a hard time finding a reliable babysitter.

Well, there are a couple of things that you can do to get around this little issue. Now, no one is blaming their kids because they can't go out on dates. Not only is that wrong from a moral standpoint, but it’s just bad parenting if you think it’s your kids’ fault. You have to understand that you have a responsibility to your children and they should always come first no matter what. That doesn’t mean you have to give up dating all together, though. You can still go out and have some fun. You just need to know how.

The first thing you should do is try a babysitter. If you have a regular babysitter, then ask them if they can watch the children for you so you can go out for a date. If they have other plans, offer to pay them extra if you can. Usually the extra money will be sufficient enough for you to get your date planned out. Of course, that plan doesn’t always work out for you and you will need to try something else. You can always ask your family if they can watch your kids for you.

Grandparents love to babysit because it gives them the chance to spoil your children rotten and then send them back home. If you are lucky enough to have your parents living close by, you can ask them if they would be willing to watch the little ones for a bit while you go out. Resorting to family members for babysitting is a great way of letting your children spend more time with them as well. Everyone wins in that type of a situation. But what if you don’t have family nearby that can help or they just aren't able to help you out at that specific time?

If you can't get a babysitter and your family can't watch them for you, then you only have one option left. You have to figure out a date that you can include your children on and make sure that the person you want to date is willing to give it a shot. Not only will this give you time to get to know this person, but it will allow your children to get to know them better as well. Anyone that isn’t willing to go on a date with your children probably isn’t someone you want around them all that much anyway.

Why Avoid Online Dating

With dating being such an exercise in stress these days, there are more reasons than ever to jump online and sign up with a few of the reputable online dating websites. Yes, you’ll probably tell yourself anything to keep from having to take this step. You think that you’re too busy, or you just don’t want your information so public, or you would just rather meet someone naturally rather than “force” it. Maybe you’ve already given it a quick shot and it just didn’t work out for you. 

Ok, now that you’ve come up with all of the excuses in the world to not do this, it’s time to make a list of some great reasons that you should do it. First of all, if you’re really so busy that you can’t find the time to set up a dating profile, then you probably need to either just not worry about dating at all, or maybe drop some of your commitments. Seriously, when you’re too busy to date or have a social life, then you need to cut back on some things. Remember that little adage that starts out with “All work and no play?” It’s sure to make you a dull person and no one wants to date dull people. 

As for wanting to meet someone “naturally,” everyone would love it if that were to happen. The problem with that is this is just not something that happens all the time these days. Most people meet their dating partners through mutual friends or just bouncing around online in various chat rooms and communities. Granted, there are those couples that meet at church, at bars or clubs, at the post office, the Laundromat, the supermarket, or anywhere else where people may go on a day to day basis. It’s just that not everyone you meet in those ways will work out. 

The thing about online dating websites is that they’re usually set up so that people with things in common can easily find each other as well as communicate. If you’re someone that doesn’t want to put all of your information online, simply be selective about what you decide to put into your dating profile. No one has stated that you must put absolutely everything out there for just anyone to read. All you need to do is build your profile in a way that you’ll only attract the type of potential dates that will interest you. 

These days, there are so many more reasons to look into online dating websites than there are to not do it. If you have tried it before and it just wasn’t all that successful, don’t let that stop you. Get some advice from friends that have enjoyed some great experiences with it. They’ll probably be quite happy to assist you in building just the right profile so that only the types of people that you would find fascinating will be drawn to contact you. Then, you can go from there regarding whether or not you’ll reply, ignore the contact or eventually set up a date. It really is just that easy!