Article 1 In a Series of Articles on Mending My Broken Heart

This new article serie will be about  what troubles most of us with relation problems; the pain from a broken or hurted heart and how to mend it. We will start with a verse from a song with Bee Gees.

“And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend a this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.”
--Bee Gees

How do You Mend a Broken Heart

Just as you didn’t fall in love overnight, you won’t fall out of love overnight.  And, we call the process of falling out of love “mending a broken heart.” 

There are several stages to mending a broken heart.

First, there is the hurting stage.  During this stage, the pain can feel so bad that you may want die rather than experience it.  People often try to drown their symptoms by drinking, taking drugs, or cutting themselves.

There are other, less severe symptoms as well.  For instance, crying often accompanies the painful period after a break up. 

Some people use this time to “stalk” their ex.  Whether it is making midnight phone calls, millions of texts, or going over to their home to monitor their behavior, stalking is a way of keeping tabs on an ex.

Others lean on friends during this period.  Good friends can give you the emotional support you need to move on.

During this initial period of hurting, it is important to develop strong coping skills.  For instance, it is good to rekindle friendships that you didn’t have time for when the relationship was going strong. 

Talking to other people about how they dealt with a break up is another excellent way to cope.  Not only will you get survival strategies, it will confirm your belief that other people have gone through the same thing – and lived to tell the tale.

It is important at this stage of the game to think happy thoughts.  Just remembering that there are pleasant things in the world will help you live through this tough stage in your life.

Finally, you should begin to focus on you.  Breaking up means taking the “I” out of the “We.”  So, now is a good time to begin looking at how you can meet your needs – especially the needs that were not met in the relationship itself.

The next stage of the break up is “getting even.”  During this time, you want to repay your ex with all of the misery he has doled out on you.  Getting even is not a healthy phase of getting over a relationship, and you should do everything you can to minimize the time you spend in this place.

During this time, you may try to make your ex’s life a living hell.  This can involve things like crank calling them dozens of times, sending them a computer virus, and threatening them.  All of these are bad ideas.  Not only can they get you in trouble within your own social group and potentially in trouble with the law, they also delay your own recovery.

Article 2 in this series of articles will continue tomorrow.

Dont forget the sun behind the clouds because somehow the sun will shine again even if it´s trying times.
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