Good morning friends! Todays article The Importance Of Commonality In Relationships has its points. But I start to think about why we fall in love with someone in the beginning?! Is it something matching us on a subconsciousness level; some are talking about our twin soul. If it is so should we then match ourselves in our interests also to be able to live a happy life together, or is it so that when we match on a vibrational level we also have the ability to open up ourselves to new interests and activities beyond what we have done before. Thats something to think about. If a total dismatch in interests can be very frustrating in a relationship i also think that two persons that are completely similar can drive each other mad sometimes. So theres more questions then answers but in this definitely important subject.
Have a great day in light and love!
Dick Scott/Admin
One of the most important ingredients of a successful relationship is that of having something in common with your partner. It may not seem so important in the very beginning when you’re still in that afterglow of lust. Everything is beautiful and wonderful with your new love at that point. However, as things start to cool down just a bit, you’ll start to see just how much having things in common with someone can mean.
Consider that you’re someone who loves mystery and scary movies. You love a great psychological suspense plot as well as supernatural ones. Your partner, on the other hand, prefers action movies where there are heists gone wrong. As long as something gets blown up and there’s plenty of fighting and bloodshed, he doesn’t care WHAT the movie is actually ABOUT. Neither of you can stand the preference of the other one. You end going to see movies separately or watching them in different rooms of your home. That’s not really quality time, is it?
Suppose one of you loves to read and also loves to discuss the books that you’ve read. As you try to talk to your partner about the latest book you’ve just finished reading, he’s nodding at what you’re saying but, at the same time, his eyes are glazing over. You know he’s not really listening because he’s actually bored to death.
Then, there’s area of activities. He may love to go camping in the wild but your idea of camping is to stay at a rustic mountain cabin with all of the amenities. You may like to go hiking or biking but he loves an afternoon of skydiving. Clearly, there are some vast differences in this area of your relationship.
Now, while there have been rare occasions when a relationship has made it successfully even though the two people involved had absolutely nothing in common; that just doesn’t happen all that often. For the majority of couples, having at least a couple of big interests in common that they can enjoy together is pretty important. While an initial physical attraction may have brought them together, what will they do when they find they have nothing of interest to talk about with each other?
That’s why one of the first things you need to do when meeting someone new is to get into a conversation about what each of you enjoy doing. Therefore, if he’s into mountain climbing and you’re terrified of heights, chances are that you should simply find a polite way of disengaging yourself from this person because you’re obviously wasting your time as well as his.
Thanx for reading, i hope this has given you some good ideas about how to handle differences in relationships.
Dick Scott
Ps. Have you read about The Magic of Making Up? If not you will have great help from it if you struggle in your relationship.
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