Article 2 In a Series of Articles on Balance Your Friends and Lover

Let Your Love Meet Your Friends

So, since your friends and love are important, you want them to continue to be important parts of your life.

One way to handle this is to make sure that your friends and your love get together.  It may be awkward to have a guy’s night and bring your girl along or vice versa.

Therefore, plan an event where he can bring his friends and you can bring yours.  A backyard Barbeque is an excellent way to do this.

Make sure that you specifically introduce your love to all of your friends.  Encourage them to spend time together.

At the same time, encourage your friends to mix with your love’s.  If anybody hooks at the party, that’s a bonus.

But, there are other ways to get your friends and love together.  Try holding a seated dinner party with a handful of friends and their dates. 

If most of your friends belong to a organization of some sort (church group, writing circle, alumni group), take your new love to an event that requires an escort. 

Also, you can introduce your new love to your friends one by one or in very small groups. 

Remember as well that three’s company too.  It’s okay to invite your friend and your boyfriend out for brunch or drinks.  You don’t always have to pair everyone up every time.

Whatever you do, don’t overwhelm him or her with new faces that they’ll have to incorporate all at once.

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When Your Friends Don’t Like Your Love

What should you do when your friends don’t seem as taken with your new love as you are? 

First of all, you should listen to them.  They may see something that you don’t.  It might not just be jealousy.

For instance, your friends may see you repeating a pattern that is bad for you by falling for the same kind of guy or girl that always hurts you.  Or, they may know something about his or her past that they’re not ready to come right out and tell you.

But this isn’t necessarily the case.  They may just be jealous that you are no longer spending 100 percent of their time with you.  This may be especially true with friends who have difficulty attracting dates themselves.  You should have compassion for those people.

But you need to be able to stand up for your new love.  You are obviously attracted to this person for reasons that your friends may not understand.  He may be shy and they don’t see the brilliant sense of humor that only comes out when he knows someone well.  Or, you may find something special in your new man or woman which your friends lack.  Because they don’t understand why this is important to you, they man not appreciate in your new love.

Remember, your friends are entitled to their opinions.  You should listen to them.  But, you shouldn’t let their opinions run your life. Tomorrow we will continue with Article 3 In a Series of Articles on Balance Your Friends and Lover.