Responding to Discouraging Family and Friends

Returning to an ex brings a variety of responses from close family and friends. They often quickly insert their opinions, even when not been requested. One needs to proceed with caution in dealing with loved ones seeking to share their concerns and be protective. Because of the delicate nature, it become imperative to understand why they act the way they do, how one should absorb their words and actions and then how to move forward.

Why they do it?

Though hard to believe, family and friends seeking to intervene one's return to an ex have the best of intentions. Their behavior makes witnessing their kindness as with a bit of selfishness. This makes understand their motivations infinitely more important.

* Best Interests: Especially post a bad break up, they likely saw the fallout of the ending of the relationship. Factors, major like infidelity or benign like general disrespect, can cause them throw themselves into the breach, even without being asked. Keeping their love in mind will help couch their actions in the right category.

* Numerical Support: From a strictly mathematical standpoint, most couples attempting to rekindle a romance end up in the same fractured end a second, third or thirtieth time. The old standard "it would have worked out the first time if it was meant to be" can be trotted out for almost any circumstance helping them to feel they are correct.

Responding to Discouraging Family and Friends

* Painless Process: They likely believe getting back with an ex will bring about more pain and would prefer giving a new relationship a chance over a return to old ground. This can be more acute if they were involved bolstering up one after the devastation left by the end.

How to respond?

With a temptation to ignore their concern, one should avoid the easy avenue. Family and friends provide a trusted outside opinion. Tuning out their counsel because it may come across as painful or harsh cuts off an important source of information. Depending on the nature of the relationship, treading carefully, listening closely and weighing their advice may bring about a clearer picture into what occurred and could be on the horizon.

What to do?

This step tends to be the most complicated as the response may cause strife. Sometimes the anxiety happens in the gut. Other times, moving forward may estrange family and friends. The key is to minimize either response.

* Say Thanks: An act of gratitude acknowledges the care expressed by a family member or friend. They will likely feel heard if they are thanked for having the courage to share their heart with you.

* Keep Them in the Loop: This can be challenging because it means they will possess access to deeper moments. Trusting them with the ongoing story helps them see changes in one's ex and might ease future interactions.

* Make Your Own Decision: In the end, the decision being made involves two individuals. A family member or friend will understand one's desire to be happy and will want what is best in the situation. This will be easier if they have been genuinely heard and acknowledged.

Friends and family hold special places within one's life. They cannot be ignored without causing severe damage to the relationship. It is important to remember not to damage one relationship for another. Trades, such as that, never end well. Family and friends possess insight, so listen closely to them. In the end, the best thing for everyone is being loved and respected on every level.

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Why Men Cheat

A range of reasons exist for infidelity to occur. Looking at some of the key circumstances surrounding the breaking of trust, men seeking outside relationships may not know the extent to why they do what they do. This does not excuse the behavior when a partner cheats. Bear in mind while looking at this topic, cheating carries many nuances defined by the structure of each relationship. The key centers around the hiding of the activities leading to a breaking of trust with a partner.

Outside Factors

Events or stressors pressing into the man's life might trigger a desire for outside companionship. When stated, these reasons carry the falsest notes. They often have deeper reasons underneath them. Men using them as excuses often possess far too little insight to be able to present the true reasons they cheated.

Work and Life Stress: When life becomes overwhelming, some men find the concept of investing in the one stable relationship alien. They turn to something new requiring less investment. Stress will likely destroy the new relationships as the man has not found healthy ways to cope with stress.

Boredom: By using boredom as an excuse for infidelity, the man indicates his lack of depth. A person willing to destroy as stable place because they want a taste of something interesting means they were likely not worth having a long term relationship with to begin with.

Why Men Cheat 

Confusion About Relationships

Men who cheat adopt an unrealistic and twisted view of what relationships and their roles within them mean. Everyone likes to believe their partner understands the way to move forward. Unfortunately, things can short circuit the relational development of someone. One of the biggest impediments leading to a misguided view of relationships and their ups and downs comes from the model a partner possesses. A man growing up in a house where either infidelity ran rampant or quiet desperation fueled by silence gave them the idea of acceptable behaviors leading them to cheating. Keep in mind, the person's actions are their own regardless of the things they learned.

Escape and Excitement

Some men seek something they are not finding in the environment of their current relationship. These things point to an overall immaturity. Let's look at what and how they demonstrate a lack of growth.

Excitement: The idea of the new can be alluring. Starting something can carry promise of things being different or allow exploration in avenues feeling choked by the current relationship. After several years and broken relationship, a wise person will see the roller coaster of infidelity takes a toll on everyone, including the man who cheats.

Escape: A person incapable of being emotionally honest may use an affair as a path of release from the relationship. What would cause someone to hurt another when a difficult and honest conversation would suffice? An immature person will seek freedom by the easiest path, including having their partner break up with them.

Infidelity, much like fidelity, is a choice. There are millions of excuses in several facets including biological, psychological and relational. When evaluating these reasons, they all fall back on one thing. The one who cheated made a choice to do it. Finding a way out of the aftermath can be difficult. It is important to realize a hard truth often bears out. Life is better when couples are open, honest and trusting.

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