Trusting Again Means Trusting Yourself First

If someone has betrayed your trust, you may think the concept of trusting again is out of reach. Trust is one of those things that must be earned.

Therefore, when it's misplaced, it's easy to simply put up a wall between you and the rest of the world to avoid it from ever happening again. Don't live a lonely dissatisfying life without a valuable relationship due to a breach of trust. 

You can move beyond the pain of broken trust. Just because one person betrayed you, doesn't mean everyone else will too. Trusting again means gaining the confidence that everything will work out for the best, or even better than before.

Two Kinds of Trust

Basically, there are two kinds of trust.

- Trusting Yourself
Trusting yourself means having the self-belief that all your decisions are based on kindness, love, and respect towards yourself.

- Trusting Others
Having faith and trust in others means believing that their choices in life are based on the kindness, love, and respect they have towards you. It's harder to trust others if you don't trust yourself first.

Be Kind and Loving to Yourself

You may think you have lost the ability to trust. But is that actually true? When you give your order at your favorite restaurant, don't you trust they will bring the food to you? Even though there's big trust and small trust, trust is still trust. 

What you really want is to believe and relax in the fact that you won't get hurt again. That takes trust. Focus on the positive aspects of people to bring out the positive in them. This will restore your confidence in others and bring back the trust factor.

You are Perfect Just the Way You Are

Contrary to what anyone says, you are a perfect and wholesome human being just the way you are. How do I know that? Because we all are. And the only reason you may feel like you are less than perfect is because you are not letting it naturally shine through, but it is definitely there. 

No one has the power to take anything away from you - including trust. You can never be "less" without a certain person's love, approval, and trust since you are "whole" in your natural state.



Encourage the Possibilities

Trust is an essential element to all human relations. You can't start a new relationship if you truly believe that once someone betrays your trust, trust is gone forever. 

You simply cannot live in a past relationship and expect your new one to succeed. If you are still harboring feelings of resentment due to a betrayal, your new partner will feel it and likewise not trust you. 

How is this moving forward? It's time to start trusting again and be happy.

Look for Trustworthy People

Trusting again means actively looking for trust and kindness in others. What does your gut feeling (intuition) tell you about this person? 

If you are on the fence whether or not you should trust someone, watch and observe how they treat other people. 

Keep in mind you can't judge a book by its cover. Some of the most attractive people by all appearances have the ugliest behavior behind closed doors.

If you are in a new relationship, don't give your heart away too fast. Start small and see where it goes. Even the smallest breach of trust is a red flag. This new person must earn both your trust and respect. 

Generally, if someone is trustworthy with the little things in life, it's a good indicator you can trust them with the big things as well. 

Believe that you deserve a trusting and long-lasting relationship and you will increase your chances of manifesting it. Remember, what you think about comes about. Trusting again - you can do it

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Best Tips for Making Up After a Fight

Even in the best relationships, couples will occasionally disagree or perhaps even fight. However, committed couples seem to always find a way to quickly reconcile, get over it, and move forward. Making up in a healthy and open manner is the best approach when things aren't always sunshine and roses.

Look Beyond the Actual Argument

Most therapists agree that when couples fight, most often the problem isn't actually what they are fighting about. On the surface, it may appear as if the argument is about the kids or money, but usually there's an emotion hiding just beneath the surface that hasn't yet surfaced. 

Chances are you're not even aware of these hidden feelings. Typical feelings that several fights can be traced back to include:

- Feeling unappreciated, used, or taken for granted
- Abandonment fears. You're concerned your partner is going to eventually leave the relationship
- Inadequacy and unworthiness. You don't feel worthy of your partner's affection; you're not good enough

Learn How to Communicate Your Deepest Feelings

Practice peaceful heartfelt communication. Tell your partner how you feel when they frivolously spend money or how upset you get when you see them constantly flirting. This lets you address the core issues and often helps the other to understand your concerns without resorting to arguing.

Reveal Your Humble Side

Many times if you say you're sorry for something you did (or didn't do), it will motivate your partner to apologize as well. Making up can be as simple as defusing your exaggerated emotional state.

You're Not Always Right

People who argue for the sake of arguing or have to win the argument will keep the fight going. Nobody wins in this scenario and it increases the distance between you and your significant other. Do you want to be right, or be happy?

Best Tips for Making Up After a Fight

Be Grateful For Your Partner

Showing your partner how much you appreciate them is the fastest way to happiness. Successful relationships use less criticism and more appreciation when talking or interacting with one another. 

Express what you like about your other half and point out what they do that makes you happy. However, it's a good idea to start with you first. 

Do you appreciate you? Are there more things you like about yourself vs. what you don't like? Be grateful for your own unique qualities and character as well.

Take Responsibility for Your Part in the Fight

If you can find a way to admit you are somewhat to blame for the fight (maybe you started it) and take responsibility for your actions, it will likely incite a sense of compassion in your partner and open up a whole new level of healthy dialogue.

Establish Respectful Boundaries

If you've had a particularly nasty fight, consider making an agreement with your lover about establishing civil boundaries when you find yourselves getting into a heated argument. 

Promise you won't do certain things such as call each other degrading names, bring up the past, or raise your voices beyond a certain level.

During the process of making up, remember to stay calm and keep a level head. Keep in mind your goal is to be happy again and make things better.

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Importance Of Sense Of Humor In A Relationship

There's an old saying that laughter is the best medicine and indeed this is very true. Laughter helps relieve tension, depression, stress, elevates your mood, boosts energy levels and enhances creativity. 

Right from the start of a relationship one of the best ways to win a woman’s heart is to make her smile or laugh. This also goes a long way in solving issues and building a strong relationship with your partner. 

By sharing the pleasure that comes with humor you will be building a strong bond with your partner, it creates a strong connection between the two of you, creates room for intimacy; these are some of the qualities of a good relationship. 
However, this humor should be done in a respectful manner. So how important is a sense of humor?


Creates a strong bond between partners

Humor has its own way of creating strong bonds between couples. You can share your own version of "inside jokes" when you try to find the humor in every situation. This doesn't mean you should try to create humor by continually making fun of each other. It's much better if you can learn to laugh at yourself, then your partner can laugh with you, not at you.


Makes it easy to overcome differences 

No relationship is devoid of differences and fights but with humor in a relationship it becomes easier to deal with these problems. A good example can be when addressing a sensitive issue like sex problems or a problem that involves in-laws. You can address this issue with humor, so your partner understands there's a problem, but is made aware of that problem in a non-confrontational way. 

Importance Of Sense Of Humor In A Relationship 

Can help to diffuse tension

Partners disagree over different topics in a relationship, some are small and insignificant, others are major issues. You may find yourself in a tense situarion where no one wants to talk. A well-timed joke can go a long way towards melting the tension  away and before long you will find yourselves talking and teasing each other again. 


Helps in overcoming problems 

Some people think that money is everything in life and they forget that money cannot buy you happiness. You might not have as much money as you'd like but you're happy with your life because your man makes you laugh even during the toughest times. 

Women love being around men who can make them laugh despite the situation at hand. Being playful with your partner can make the hardest thing or situation seem simple and easy to handle but when you are gloomy and too serious that situation can seem to be a unsurmountable hurdle.  


The bottom line is, a good sense of humor is essential to a strong, healthy relationship. In numerous polls and surveys conducted to determine which traits are the most looked for and desired by women, sense of humor is almost always close to the top, frequently beating out appearance and money in terms of importance.

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Once a Cheater Always a Cheater

If you have ever been cheated on you know the emotional trauma that comes with it. Infidelity is one of the few mistakes in a relationship that is powerful enough to feel on a physical level. It is almost as if someone hit you in the gut with a big fist of disbelief.

Trust is a precious thing that you should treat with the utmost caution. It's kind of like the Humpty Dumpty of bonds in a relationship. People tend to toss it around without realizing how fragile it really is. 

Once it breaks they realize how impossible it seems to be to put it back together. Make sure you only give your trust away to people you can rely on. If the person you want to give your trust to has already violated it once, don't hand it right back to them without making sure they will respect it.

So if someone is a cheater, will they always be one? It would be nice if there was a clear answer to this question. Unfortunately every person in the world is different. Some can change and commit themselves faithfully while others will eventually fall back into betrayal. 

Don't let a simple apology and a seemingly sincere promise persuade you into taking someone back. There are things you can do to find out whether or not someone is capable of being trusted a second time.

The first and most important thing is to determine the reason your partner cheated in the first place. People cheat for a variety of reasons, some of which are clear indicators that it may happen again.

1. Lack Of Respect - Some people could care less about their partner's feelings or the commitment they shared. Did your partner cheat simply because they didn't respect you? Chances are if they cheated and show no remorse, they will continue to be unfaithful.

2. They Were Getting Little Attention - Sometimes when people aren't faithful to their partner it is because they want to get noticed. If someone is neglected for long enough, they might take drastic action to make things change. Many people end up finding out they played a major role in why their partner cheated.

Once a Cheater Always a Cheater

3. The Relationship Was Getting Boring - A lot of affairs take place just for the thrill factor. When a relationship gets boring and dull, people tend to look for excitement. 

If you experienced a lack of intimacy and not enough positive interaction there is a good chance this is why your partner cheated.

These are just a few common reasons people cheat. It could be a lot more complicated and difficult to figure out for certain couples. Once you have the motives figured out you have to ask yourself one question: Can you change the reason? The answer to this question is the easiest way to determine whether or not more cheating could be in your future with this partner.

If you can't work together as a couple to fix the problem you are out of luck. As long as the problem persists you are bound to experience the same consequences. 

There are a lot of people who foolishly think the problem will solve itself and end up falling into a reckless pattern of emotional discourse.

If you can work together to make changes there is hope, but it doesn't guarantee they will change. Proceed with caution before giving your trust back. Take things slow and pay great attention to the way your relationship is building back up. 

Even if you feel comfortable with them again, you need to be positive they have earned your trust. Before you decide whether or not to give your trust back to someone, think about how you felt when you were betrayed. 

It isn't something people like to remember, but it is important to know that it could happen again if they aren't careful enough.
 Sadly, the majority of relationships that ended because of a cheating partner are bound to fail. If the bond is strong enough however, there is no reason you can't work through it and find your way back to a happy couple again. 

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How To Rebuild Trust After You Cheated

The truth is everybody makes mistakes, yet the mistake of infidelity can cause cracks in the foundation of even the most happy and successful of relationships. If you cheat on your significant other but have hopes of repairing the broken foundation you need to be prepared to be very patient. 

Trust is not something that is easy to achieve and is not going to be rewarded to you overnight with a simple "I'm sorry, and it won't happen again." If you hope to regain the trust of your loved one after you have cheated, you need to begin by showing your strong desire to be with them and put in the necessary amount of hard work that is needed to prove yourself worthy of their trust again.

The first step you need to take is being as honest about the situation as possible. Your significant other is more than likely going to have a lot of questions for you and you simply need to be ready to answer them as honestly as you possibly can. This is going to be your first opportunity after the situation to show that you can still be honest. It may be hard to share the details of your infidelity but this is a crucial aspect of the healing process for both of you.

Through the process of earning back your trust, you need to be understanding of your significant other. Do not be surprised when they become a little suspicious when you claim to be going out with your friends or working late. After what they have been through they are bound to have doubts, so provide them with as much information about your whereabouts as possible.

How To Rebuild Trust After You Cheated

Open the door to allow them to visit you at work if that is acceptable. If you are out with your friends, take the time to call them and ensure them that you are exactly where you said you were going to be and with the people you said you were going to be with. Also, if they call you, make the effort to answer it. Your number one job through this process is going to be soothing any doubts, suspicions and concerns your partner may have.

Another important thing you will need to do is remove the person that you cheated with from your life completely - delete their number and avoid them at all costs. 

It is going to be very hard for your partner to trust you if that person is still around. If they are a co-worker or someone that you can't avoid, do the best to talk this over with your significant other and assure them that nothing will ever happen again.

Attempting to regain your trust after you cheated is not going to be easy. You can expect a few months full of tears and frustration. This is a process that is going to take time for both of you. The best thing you can do is take this as an opportunity to show your significant other how much they really mean to you and to stress your desire to earn their trust once again. 

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What Small Changes Can You Make to Melt Her Heart?

Is your relationship on the edge of an abyss? Is the woman you love threatening to walk away once and for all? Are you willing to do whatever it takes to change the future and fight for your relationship? The good news is that you don't have to dig down deep and give your inner Al Bundy the old heave ho. A few small changes on your part will have her looking at you the way Peg Bundy hasn't seen Al in several decades.

Bring Home Small Tokens of Affection

You don't have to rob the chocolate shop or begin a revolving charge account with your community florist.  But bringing home the occasional small gift brightens her day and makes her feel like she really is the center of your world. 

Candle Heart

Show Her How Much You Need Her

Women, above all else, NEED to be needed. Just as you enjoy words of flattery and hat look she gets in her eyes, she enjoys feeling like your life functions well because she does her part to make it work. Tell her just how much you need her every once in a while. Take the time to tell her how much you appreciate the things she does around the house: making your lunch, keeping things tidy, and nurturing your children. These are the types of things that make a huge impression and that ultimately melt her heart.

Be There for Her -- Really There

There is one thing your woman WANTS from you more than anything else. She wants this more than she wants you to spend money on her buying gifts or living in a big house. She wants your time. Not just time you spend in the Lazy-boy with your head glued to the television, tablet, or computer. She wants your time and attention. She wants more than for you to simply be in the house. She wants you to be PRESENT in conversations and interactions with her.  It doesn't cost money, but it will require you to change the way you do things. The rewards, though, are worth giving up a little bit of "veg out" down time at the end of a long day of work.

You don't have to go too far above and beyond the call of duty in order to make your girlfriend or wife feel like the most precious things in your world. Mastering the art of doing these things can even be the difference in working things out so you can get your ex back or adjusting to life without her in it.

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Being Happy Is the Best Revenge - Happy Together that Is

Sometimes, the idea of being happy in your relationship seems elusive. Life gets in the way. You're always torn between work, family, and love. Unfortunately, love and romance often get placed on the back burner. That's not good for your relationship. 

Sometimes it takes a serious wakeup call, like a breakup, to make you realize just how little attention you've been giving to one of the most important relationships you'll ever have in your life. By that time, most people think it's too late to make a difference. However, that’s hardly the case. 

It's not too late to make things work for the two of you. In fact, the best revenge you can have on yourself (that will teach you) is to get your ex back and have a relationship that's better than it's ever been before. But, before you set out on your mission to get your ex back, keep these thing in mind.

Your Ex has Some Hurt to Deal With

Make sure you allow your ex an adequate amount of time to put the pain behind and start remembering the good times rather than dwelling on the bad before you make your play. It's hard to wait once you've made up your mind. But, waiting in this case is necessary if you want to be truly successful.

Your Ex Still Loves You

It's important for you to understand that your ex can't turn his love off and on like it's a light switch. If he loved you before, he still loves you now. That should help alleviate some of the sense of urgency driving you forward. The fact that your ex can't turn off these feelings so easily works in your favor giving you time to come up with a plan that will be effective for getting your ex back.

Absence Really Does Make Hearts Fonder

The things about most old sayings that have survived the tests of time is that they are, quite often, true. That certainly applies for this one. The longer you're away, the more time you give your ex to recover, the more good, fond memories your ex is likely to remember when thinking of you. If you make your move too soon, the negative emotions are still too raw and close to the surface. Waiting allows an appropriate amount of time to pass so that your ex can be more receptive to the idea of working things out.

If you want to be happy this time around, make your relationship a priority for your life once you do get your ex back. That will be the best revenge you can have on yourself and the way things were before. Need a little help coming up with a plan to get your ex back? I can help with that!

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Did Score Keeping Ruin Your Relationship?

No matter what you may have heard, it takes two to make or break a relationship. You aren't the sole reason your breakup happened. But, that doesn't mean there aren't things you've done along the way that contributed to the end. One of the biggest problems in relationships, and one that is more common than most people realize, is a practice called keeping score. 

You may have a fight and even make up after the fight, but in the back of your mind, you're marking off numbers on a scorecard your partner has never even seen. When need fights occur, you're adding fouls and other offenses to this scorecard and the fight grows into so much more than it started out as.

You know what I'm talking about. You're having a fight over dinner being late and suddenly the fight's about something that happened last year when he didn't defend you when his mother was overly critical.  This is bad for the relationship for many reasons. These are just a few.

Nothing is Ever Solved

Not really solved, anyway. The other person has moved on and forgotten about the old argument. Then suddenly he or she is being held responsible for something they thought had been sorted out and made up for in the past. To them it feels like a sucker punch and that's not a good feeling. 

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Fighting is a normal part of relationships. The purpose is to RESOLVE issues. When you pretend all is well for a while and then bring it up at a later date, it leaves the other person feeling doubly hurt and somewhat betrayed.

It Breeds Resentment

Unfortunately, when you're keeping score and resolving nothing, you're rehashing old arguments and emotional injuries just beneath the surface. You're walking around in a state of unresolved hurt and growing resentment all the time. It's not healthy for you and may leave your partner scratching his or her head at times trying to understand why you're so angry all the time.

Compounds the Real Problems in the Relationship

Finally, when you have this running score going on in your head of perceived slights and injuries (some things you've probably never even so much as mentioned to your partner), they're only serving to compound the real problems in the relationship. 

This means that when the time comes to begin working on what's broken, you have to sift through all the clutter to get to the heart and soul of the problem in your relationship. Too often, you expend precious time and energy trying to sort through the old issues that you never get to the real problem.

That's when breakups happen. That's when the two of you give up and then, more often than not, live with regrets over what could have been. Is it too late? I don't believe it's ever too late. But, you will ultimately have to eliminate the scorecard and leave it behind you for good if you want to have an honest shot at a second chance.

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