Great Expectations - Are They Ruining Your Romance?

It's great to have high expectations of what life is going to be like when you're sharing it with the person who is the love of your life. Unfortunately, many people have dreams and expectations that are simply unobtainable. Whether it comes from reading romance novels where the hero also realizes the error of his ways and gives in to the heroine's every whim, or, on the other side of the coin, from watching rap videos where women are throwing themselves at the feet of men ready to cater to their every whim.

As a society, we're giving mixed messages between fantasy and reality and it's ruining more than its fair share of romances. If your relationship is becoming a bitter disappointment because it isn't meeting up to your expectations here are a few things it might help you to remember.

Stop Comparing Your Relationship to Others

Whether you're comparing your relationship to real relationships other people have (what you see of those relationships anyway) or something in novels or on television screens, you're doing your relationship a huge disservice. Reality can never live up to fiction and you're only seeing the public side of other relationships. You're not privy to what's going on behind closed doors.

Great Expectations - Are They Ruining Your Romance?

Establish Realistic Expectations

The truth is that we all have expectations of life that rarely live up to reality. When it comes to relationships, learning to compromise and have expectations that are more realistic can make a world of difference when it comes to how happy you are with your partner. Both of you have areas where there is room for improvement. Identify them and make changes where appropriate.

Learn to Speak Up When It's Important

The other problem regarding expectations arises when you fail to speak up when something is really important to you. Your partner can't meet your needs if he or she isn't aware of them. You must speak up and let your partner know what's going on in your head and in your heart. You can't hold the other person in the equation responsible for unknown variables. It's not fair to either of you or your relationship.

It doesn't seem like such a big deal at first glance. However, adjusting your expectations just a little bit, in order to meet your partner in the middle, can make a world of different to your happiness with the relationship and with your partner.

Marriage Mistakes Women Make and How to Avoid Them

Marriage is a complex entity that rarely turns out quite the way you envisioned while making plans and picking out China patterns and wedding dresses. It was so much simpler when it was all on paper and everything matched up perfectly. Real life is never quite so neat and tidy.



Unfortunately, many couples put far more thought into planning the details of their marriage without putting a single thought into what's going to happen once the vows are made. If you're getting ready to take your walk down the aisle, keep these mistakes in mind so you can avoid them in your marriage.

Don't Tell Your Friends about Your Problems

It may seem like the thing to do. Your best friend has been by your side through thick and thin over the years. You want to turn to her as a sounding board for your marital troubles. Unfortunately, there's a big problem with that. Your friend loves YOU. The jury's still out on the man you married. 

If you're going to her to unload all the negatives, she's going to hate him on your behalf and never give him or your marriage a real chance. Over time, the strain will become problematic and you'll either cut ties with your husband (at your friend's urging) or your friend because she's just too antagonistic towards the man you love.

Don't Expect Him to Change

There's an old saying about men and women and how they view marriage. Men, according to this old saying, find the perfect woman and marry her hoping she'll never change. Women go out and find a great start and marry him hoping to change him. Unfortunately for you, men are reluctant to change and are often actually hurt by your efforts to force them to change.

Marriage Mistakes Women Make and How to Avoid Them

If you seriously want change in the marriage or the relationship, it's best to begin by making positive changes for yourself. He'll notice those and often want to be part of it, once he decides it's a change for the better and not simply for the sake of change. But if you go in expecting him to change it's going to leave you both feeling disappointed and out of sorts.

Don't Forget to Connect with Your Husband

We nurture many connections in life. We try to build relationships with our children, with our friends, and even with our coworkers. People reach out and connect on social media networks and online message boards in their "after hours". Connections are more important now than ever before.

And yet so many people fail to reach out and make the connection with the one person who is most important to them. They believe they feel it should somehow be automatic and require no active participation in order to keep going. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have to build the bond with shared activities and experiences if you want the bond of marriage to survive the tests of time.

These are small mistakes that can really cost your marriage if you allow them to. Avoid making them and you're sure to have a healthier, happier, and more loving relationship with your husband now and in the years to come.

Marriage Mistakes Women Make and How to Avoid Them

Marriage is a complex entity that rarely turns out quite the way you envisioned while making plans and picking out China patterns and wedding dresses. It was so much simpler when it was all on paper and everything matched up perfectly. Real life is never quite so neat and tidy.

Unfortunately, many couples put far more thought into planning the details of their marriage without putting a single thought into what's going to happen once the vows are made. If you're getting ready to take your walk down the aisle, keep these mistakes in mind so you can avoid them in your marriage.

Don't Tell Your Friends about Your Problems

It may seem like the thing to do. Your best friend has been by your side through thick and thin over the years. You want to turn to her as a sounding board for your marital troubles. Unfortunately, there's a big problem with that. Your friend loves YOU. The jury's still out on the man you married. 

If you're going to her to unload all the negatives, she's going to hate him on your behalf and never give him or your marriage a real chance. Over time, the strain will become problematic and you'll either cut ties with your husband (at your friend's urging) or your friend because she's just too antagonistic towards the man you love.

Don't Expect Him to Change

There's an old saying about men and women and how they view marriage. Men, according to this old saying, find the perfect woman and marry her hoping she'll never change. Women go out and find a great start and marry him hoping to change him. Unfortunately for you, men are reluctant to change and are often actually hurt by your efforts to force them to change.

Marriage Mistakes Women Make and How to Avoid Them

If you seriously want change in the marriage or the relationship, it's best to begin by making positive changes for yourself. He'll notice those and often want to be part of it, once he decides it's a change for the better and not simply for the sake of change. But if you go in expecting him to change it's going to leave you both feeling disappointed and out of sorts.

Don't Forget to Connect with Your Husband

We nurture many connections in life. We try to build relationships with our children, with our friends, and even with our coworkers. People reach out and connect on social media networks and online message boards in their "after hours". Connections are more important now than ever before.

And yet so many people fail to reach out and make the connection with the one person who is most important to them. They believe they feel it should somehow be automatic and require no active participation in order to keep going. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have to build the bond with shared activities and experiences if you want the bond of marriage to survive the tests of time.

These are small mistakes that can really cost your marriage if you allow them to. Avoid making them and you're sure to have a healthier, happier, and more loving relationship with your husband now and in the years to come.

It Only Takes One Trick to Win Her Back

Getting your girlfriend back may seem like the most difficult task on the planet. It doesn't have to be though. Many guys make it much more difficult than is necessary. You see, you've been led to believe, mostly in Hollywood movies and by the makers of fine jewelry, chocolate, and greeting cards, that this is the way it's supposed to be. That isn't the case at all.

In fact, once the girl leaves, the average relationship may seem irrevocably broken, but there are still easy tips you can follow that really will help you get her back. Here are a few things you should remember if you really want to win her back.

Stop Living in the Past

Turn of the century American Author, Alice Morse Earle, once wrote: "Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." Living in relationship past robs you both of all the joy of each day together when you're in the relationship. Now that she has left, however, it can rob you of a clear perspective on what needs to be done now in order to save the relationship and make it work this time around.

 It Only Takes One Trick to Win Her Back

Become the Man You WANT to Be

This is hard for many men. It's something you may not have given a lot of thought to. Bruce Willis starred in a great movie called The Kid, where the grown up man is confronted by his eight year old self. The eight year old was horrified at the man he'd become saying, "So, I'm forty, I'm not married, I don't fly jets, and I don't have a dog? I grow up to be a loser."

Sometimes there is wisdom in those childhood echoes. You may have given up on the idea of flying jets (who really ever gives that one up though?), but that doesn't mean you can't take steps to be the man you want to be -- even if that does involve learning to fly a jet. The first step is deciding who you want to be. Then you must tackle the process of becoming that man.

How does that Help You Get the Girl?

Life doesn't always follow a movie script. You might have to wait a little while to really get her attention. But, once you start making real, notable changes in the man you are and stop trying to recapture a past that wasn't as picture perfect as you remember, you'll be able to gain a new outlook on the future. One thing is certain. Once you become the man you WANT to be, the here and now, the PRESENT, is something she'll WANT to be part of.

You Should Ask for this Before You Get Your Ex Back

No matter how down and out you feel about the ending of your relationship, it's important to understand that it's not completely your fault things didn't work out. No matter what your ex tries to convince you, it takes two people to make or break a relationship. It will take two people working together to put it back together again. You need to understand this and ask for things to change before you get your ex back. These are the reasons why you deserve better in the future.

You Bring Value to the Relationship Too

Everyone in a relationship has a role to play and a contribution to make. Both of you bring something special and unique to the relationship. The key is to learn to value your own contribution to the relationship and ask for the things you need that you aren't getting out of the relationship. It's also equally important that you invite your boyfriend to do the same and listen with an open mind when he does.


He'll Respect You More For It


Respect is important for men. They love being shown respect. Even more, they love it when the woman they love earns their respect. He wants to be proud of you. He also wants to be proud to be associated with you. When you stand up for yourself and ask him to show you the respect you deserve, he will be a little surprised at first, but much more likely to deliver than if you never asked.

You Should Ask for this Before You Get Your Ex Back

Respect is a Two-Way Street 

It's very important to show your man respect. It's one of the most important things you can do for your man if you want to keep him happy and make your relationship last. But you also need to expect it from him. Be careful about accepting anything less than the respect you deserve from him and for going back to him if he isn't willing to give you the respect. Respect should never be given that it isn't earned and it should never be sacrificed in the name of love.

Because You're Worth It

Back in the 1980's, a prominent cosmetics company coined the phrase, "Because you're worth it." The slogan was to remind women that they deserve the very best in cosmetics and hair care items because of all the things they do at home, on the job, and in their relationships. While the slogan still circulates, the message has gotten lost in a large segment of women. You forget that you deserve respect. You're worth it. Say it with me. "You're worth it!" Now remember that whenever tempers flare and disrespectful words are uttered or deeds are done and demand better in the future - for the sake of your relationship and your sanity.

It's not enough to go back to the way things were right before your breakup. You need to do better this time around. Better begins with asking for the things you need in the relationship and expecting to get them this time around.

ROBBED at gunpoint!

Is there something you can learn by being
robbed at gunpoint?

As TW Jackson explains in the <Magic Of Making Up System>

after your initial contact...you want to set up your
"1st Date" again.

AND...the MOST important part, the secret and
the part nobody else but T Dub will tell ya :-)...is the date HAS
to be EMOTIONALLY CHARGED.

Okay?

That DOES NOT mean 'dinner and a movie'.

because...well...it's BORING...and does not
create a bonding...or in our case a RE-bonding
experience.

In fact, you want to pack in several emotionally
charged mini-dates in a span of a couple hours.

Why?

If you just do 'dinner and a movie' you lose
out on a Sociologically PROVEN principle...

emotionally charged experiences = bond

Look at it in another way.

Last time you went to the bank, do you
remember the person in line in front of you?

Behind you?

Probably not. Me either.

But...

What if while you were in the bank, it
was ROBBED AT GUNPOINT?

and the robbers couldn't get the safe open. The
robbers are livid,  screaming and waving huge guns
around. The tension feels so thick you could
cut through it with a knife.

You are lying face down on the cold bank floor
and can see your breath fogging up the tile below.

You are trembling...because it is eerily silent
for a moment.

"Oh my god!"

"Where are the robbers?"

"Are they behind me?"

"Are they watching me?"

So you slowly move your eyes around and
see a sweet older lady lying right next to you.



She looks a little like Grandma, and you come
out of your own haze enough to realize that she
is even more terrified than you. She is softly sobbing.

You slowly reach out and take her hand in yours
and give her a little squeeze that says..."it's gonna
be all right."

NOW!

Let me ask?

Are you going to EVER forget that older lady?

and...

Do you think she will EVER forget you?

Not in a million Sundays!

Now...I'm not saying to go rob a bank on
your first date! LOL.

But you want to go on an EMOTIONALLY
charged and exciting date...and preferably several
mini-dates in a span of a couple hours.

A short roller coaster ride is one GREAT example.

T Dub teaches you more about things like emotionally
charged dates in the Magic Of Making Up System.

http://YOURID.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=track

You'll also discover psychological tactics and techniques
you can use to get you BACK on that first date with your
ex again.

Best Wishes,


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Relationship Help - Money Management Communication is Key to Happy Home

Money isn't the root of all evil, but evidence suggests it is the leading cause of separations and divorces throughout the world. Even if both partners agree to the overall idea that they need to manage their money better, problems arise, when they disagree over how to manage the money or have miscommunications regarding who is or isn't going to do what with the money.

Here are a few universal truths to keep your money management plan for a happy marriage from falling apart as rapidly as your marriage.

Make Sure Both Partners have Some "Fun" Money of their Own

Invariably there is one person who makes more money than the other in the relationship. Neither partner should be investing 100 percent of earnings into the bill, family, and grocery till. Both of you need a little extra money to pursue things that are important and enjoyable to you without jeopardizing the entire family budget. In order words, you need to plan a set amount for fun money, for each of you, before you do anything else.

Don't Overlook the Children

Invariably when this happens, the responsibility of giving the kids fun money falls on one parent or the other and it almost always comes from the "fun" money fund - rendering it not so fun. Whether it's setting aside funds for allowances, school needs, clothing, entertainment, sports, etc. those expenses need to be factored into the family budget and a set amount of spending for these things needs to be determined as well.

Relationship Help - Money Management Communication is Key to Happy Home

Choose Areas of Drastic Spending Restraints Together

Both voices in the relationship need to chime in where major spending cuts are concerned. Sacrifices need to be made on all sides of the equation if you're going to set financial goals and plan for a financial future together. Otherwise, why are you working to save for the future at all? It's about togetherness and shouldn't feel as a punishment for one person while the other person is making few, if any concessions.

Put it All in Writing

Iron out the details. Write it down. Make a copy. You both must be on the same page when it comes to the new family budget and money management efforts if either of you are going to be happy with the outcome. More importantly, seeing the revised plan on paper gives you both the opportunity to see if there are any spending weaknesses, forgotten expenses, or other concerns that have been overlooked in your plan.

It seems like such a simple step, and yet, so much can be riding on working it out amiably. Don't let your relationship go down without a fight because one of you has a hard time managing money. Sit down and work on a plan that promises success.

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